Everyone I know says they want more of a community where they live. Then someone actually organizes something and almost nobody comes — including, if I'm honest, me. I'm starting to think we don't really want it. We want to be the kind of person who wants it. Tell me I'm wrong.
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- Established
- Attendance responds far more to lowering the commitment than to giving people more notice — several people here describe the same reversal.
- Disagreement
- Whether the gap between what people say and what they do is a preference problem or a coordination problem.
- Still open
- Whether any of this holds somewhere people don't already recognize each other.
- Counterargument
I think you're describing a coordination problem and calling it a preference. Nobody wants to be the only one who shows up, so everyone waits to see if it's real. That's not indifference — it's everyone making the same reasonable bet at the same time.
Maya R. marked this: Changed my view
- Experience
Ran a neighborhood association for six years, and this matches. Turnout for anything scheduled was dismal. What finally worked was the opposite of organizing: we left a door open every Sunday afternoon and told nobody it was an event. Same people who'd skipped three years of invitations just started showing up.